Reiki master and therapist Julie Lomas looks back at the difficulties and challenges she had growing up as a HSP, and how she eventually found Japanese Jikiden Reiki, bringing her a deeper sense of inner peace and quietness.
Ever since being a young child I have been very sensitive to the energies around me and very intuitive or perceptive, This has grown as I have aged but luckily I have learnt to use it to my, and others, best advantage.
Growing up I could feel how other people were feeling and often felt a little scared. Luckily I had a grandmother who was also quite sensitive and use to help me out when I felt things. I often felt lonely as a child and felt like I was the odd one, or strange one out. Even in later years I felt like I was the strange one.
I was a magnet for sad and hurting people; people have always been drawn to me and would pour out all their problems, saying they felt they could trust me. I use to find it so draining and, at times, even felt annoyed by this when I was younger.
Years later I accepted it as a gift being hyper-sensitive to energy. I have learnt techniques over the years to help me and others. It is now a great advantage in my therapy practice as I can intuitively find issues and feel what people are holding on to and where. I have learnt how to grow my ability without it draining me all the time. I have also learnt what not to do.
In my early 30s after illness, I discovered Reiki. Reiki was only really starting to become known in the early 1990s and, at the time, I was living in Bahrain. Reiki helped me to get well after two years of illness and major surgery. I found it by fluke, although as I now know nothing happens without reason, and nothing is a fluke or co-incidence. And so I decided to learn it! Then after the initial attunement process, all my own innate healing abilities, sensitivities and intuitiveness started to come back to forefront. I became extremely sensitive again.
The more I practised Reiki and other healing modalities the more I felt, saw, sensed, knew... and I did not like it. I often felt drained in large crowds of people, as if all my energy had been zapped from me. I got tired easily. I felt peoples' sadness and pain, and I would instinctively know if people had hidden agendas, or were up to no good etc.
By this time I was not just learning and practising Western style Reiki, I was studying Crystal Therapies and Colour Healing, and my perceptive abilities were stronger and stronger and emotionally I was all over the place, I didn’t feel like I was on this planet at times.
I first learnt Western style Reiki this was the only Reiki we all knew at the time. I really didn’t know what to do, the more I practised and learnt Reiki, the more sensitive I became and I seemed to be picking up everyone’s thoughts and, when treating a client, was in pain or felt sick and then very tired. I always asked my teachers what to do or why was this happening? They never could truly answer it.
I went to several different teachers or 'Masters' as they are called and no one had an answer, they would say; it’s the Reiki, its meant to happen, it’s intelligent energy., you need to protect yourself, you need to do lots of different rituals, you are not doing it right, learn to live with it, you better go learn again from someone else. I did that, learning three times to Master level in the USA and UK, and three times I never felt any better, just more confused and sensitive. No one in the Reiki field could answer the questions I had, what I was feeling or what the clients were feeling. I finally decided to stop practising it, thinking that would be the best solution. I didn’t realise that the Reiki never leaves you, that it is always with you and always flowing and you are always using it! And you can always use it to help yourself.
Because I was now learning other healing modalities from professional sources in the UK, I found those teachings to be much more helpful in helping me to understand, what was going on and how to deal with what I felt. I still use these techniques as today too.
Eventually I read Frank Arjava Petter’s work on Reiki and things started to make sense, I started to get answers. I finally learnt Jikiden Reiki in 2006 with Frank Arjava Petter, and I have never looked back. The simplicity of Jikiden Reiki, the philosophy and the teachings are just amazing. They make sense! And we get all the answers we need. We can listen to the body with our hands. Jikiden Reiki is purely the Japanese way of Reiki. There is no Western influence; this is how it was and how is taught today in Japan. Once we understand their philosophy, it all makes complete sense. It is simple, pure and it works. There are no complicated rituals and we have the answers at our finger tips... literally.
We learn that Reiki is a one-way street, we are just the conduit and we do not need elaborate rituals before we start to practice. We do not need to put protection around us before we commence treatment. Reiki its self is a protection, even for people like me who are very sensitive. Sometimes I feel what we were told and taught in Western Style Reiki made our minds over-think, and I feel it made those of us who are empathic feel more., because we thought we should.
In Jikiden Reiki we do not pick up the negative energy from the client, or illness, because it is not transferred to us. What we are feeling is called 'Boysen.' There are five levels of Boysen, and we can listen to the body and its healing through our hands. Understanding the concept of Boysen is what Jikiden Reiki is about; understanding it helps us know what we are ‘feeling’ and what’s going on.
I feel being empathic helps me in my practice; I often feel pain where the client is feeling pain, I often feel their emotions and sadness even with Jikiden Reiki, however I know it is not my pain; it isn’t being transferred to me, and I just acknowledge the feel / sense, say 'thank you' and let it go. I then move my hands, (if they have not already moved to where they need to go) and carry on. There is no detriment to me at all, or the client.
Practising Jikiden Reiki is simple and easy and powerful all-round and, like anything you do in life,; the more you practice the more adept you become. It helps to bring you as a person to a deeper sense of inner peace and quietness. Saying the Gokai (the principals we live by) daily in Japanese, brings us to a calmer place. We automatically ground ourselves, or become present.
Often when I have been out in large crowds, or something has upset me, and I am out of balance or out of sync with myself, I sit quietly for a short while and say the Gokai. Place my hands on my abdomen or thymus and just allow the Reiki to flow, I soon feel better and back to me. Being grounded in any healing modality is essential and yet so misunderstood. To be grounded means you are present in your life and you are aware. It enables you to think more clearly and focus more easily. It takes you out of your head, over thinking and even over feeling. It is essential for everyone, especially if you are empathic. Jikiden Reiki automatically helps us achieve being present and grounded in our lives. Learning Jikiden Reiki has been a great blessing, I recommend it to all who practice Reiki. It has helped me to deal with my empathic and perceptive abilities.
As a sensitive or empath, if you get other people's energy coming into your system, it can cause all kinds of problems. You may feel intensely emotional, but with emotions that are not yours. Many in the Reiki community are highly energy sensitive and find themselves drained of energy periodically. In Jikiden Reiki and the way we practice it, this does not happen when we treat a client.
As a sensitive, empath or psychic, it is important to become aware of your unique situation, so you can learn to manage it effectively. When you have a deeper sense of who you really are, and your abilities, then you can learn to make choices which are healing for you, even if others might not understand or relate. Jikiden Reiki will help you to do this.
I am so very grateful to be on this healing journey and to share that being sensitive is a gift, and I use it to enhance my ability to help others. Rather than feeling like you have a strange problem or there's something wrong with you, you start to realise that you have a gift, and be grateful for it. Look at it in a different way; once understood that you do not need to suffer, think of sensitivity as a gift waiting to be unwrapped, and that wonderful things can and do happen.
Julie Lomas is an award winning writer and bestselling author of the self-help book Comfy Slippers and a Cup of Tea, A Life Coach, Holistic Therapies Practitioner, Jikiden
Reiki Shihan, Crystal Therapist Teacher, Personal Development and Stress Management Facilitator and seminar speaker, Julie focuses on inspiring people to bring positive change into their lives so
they are able to lead the most inspired authentic and creative lives possible. She has been practising and teaching therapies in the Middle East, USA and Europe for over twenty-five years and is an
advocator of standardization of correct teaching and practices of holistic therapies and practices. She brings healing and personal fulfilment into the lives of her clients addressing areas such as
confidence, self-esteem, forgiveness, values, spirituality, emotional well-being.